Could This Be Love or Lust?

 

Love and Lust have a clear distinction but many teens today tend to use both interchangeably when it comes to the definition of what they feel towards the same gender or the opposite gender.

Love is a profoundly tender, passionate affection for another person while lust is a strong sexual desire.

“Lust is primarily about physical excitement and craving for someone else,” Lehmiller explains.

“So, if you get heart palpitations every time you see this other person, you feel a rush of excitement from even the slightest touch of your bodies, and you can’t stop sexually fantasizing about him/her, it’s probably lust,” he says.

By contrast, “if you find yourselves disclosing personal details to each other that you don’t normally share, you’re providing each other with emotional support, you’re integrating them into your life, and you’re thinking about your future together, it’s probably love.”

Many teens are motivated to get into a relationship because they are always sexually, and physically driven by the broad chest, baritone voice of the guy and shape, skin tone, behind or cleavage of a lady, and the uttermost aim of lust is to end in just a bedroom and not the later which is the matrimonial bedroom. But the characteristics of love are that it’s a somehow sexual, emotionally driven, romantic, emotional, mental, and spiritual connection, sometimes accompanied by sexual or physical connection.

How do you know if you’re acting based on love and not lust?

Have a moment of sober reflection and ask yourself straight questions to gain clarity such as;

• ·         Is your emotions and action aligned with the God factor?
• ·         What physical sensation do you feel when you gaze or think about that person?
• ·         Do you fantasize about a future with the person or a sexual experience just to gratify yourself at the moment?
• ·         How would you describe your relationship with this person?
• ·         Do you desire more private time than public or social time

Some relationships were founded on “LUST” while a few were on “LOVE”. Relationships founded on lust are tantamount to building on sinking sand but that founded on love are tantamount to building on solid rock. Nevertheless, both may not eventually lead to marriage but that founded on love has so much chance to end in Marriage.

By now, the difference between love versus lust would be clear to you. Now you can scan your relationship to know where you stand and what’s driving you and your partner

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